I Want A Divorce

     When the sparkles are gone, and theres nothing else to say, You know all is gone. When you see yourself infront of you partner and you just dont feel the same way as you used to do. What do you do? How can you tell your partner I dont love love you more, I want a Divorce? Especially if the one you are with is still in love with you. How do we even start? You cant just look at him/her in the eyes and say "ok there is no love left I want to end this now".. or can we? 

     Well one thing for sure is we cant just blurt it out and expect that the other person will agree with you and say " ok then lets break up you are right" Its not that easy for sure. So what now how do we break this awfull moment, how do we say to that person we spent all our time together we cant be more? Well first thing is be sure this is what you want to do, Make sure your feelings are strait and you have no doubt in mind that this is what you want to do. Second of all make sure when you will tell your partner its over dont just blurt out the words, think before you talk.

     You dont want to say something that will scar them or make them feel it was there fault or something is wrong with them. But you do have to be honest and you do have to tell them why you are feeling the way you are, and how much you have tried to fix any problems you guys had but it just didnt work. ( this is considering that you did try to fix and that you did talk to your partner prior to making that decision.) Now When you plan on telling your partner its over What you wish to do is make sure you guys are alone with no distraction. (unless you think he will be violent I suggest a public place) If your wondering what is the first word you will say, Just start with " say his/her name then continue with We have been together for (what ever years) and we have had our ups and downs, but it seems that now"... then you continue from there. say whats in your heart. dont hide anything, yet dont say things that will only blame your partner. accept your faults as well.

     If you know you wont go back on your word, on getting back together. make sure you tell ur ex-partner you dont want to fix. they may say its becouse you found another, it may be true it may not be the thing is this is what they will think at first. Then the tears will begin and you will be put in a position where you just want to not make them feel bad and maybe you will want to reconsider. IF this is what you want total separation, You must resist and with pain in your heart stand firm in your decision. Its not an easy thing to do but if its necessary you should. You shouldnt be with someone you dont love. Its not fare to you or to the person you are with. Good luck with it and hope all goes well for both parties.